Assisted Loving | Suffolk, Virginia

October 08, 2013  •  Leave a Comment

Sometimes when you’re caught up in being the caregiver to your parents and your children at the same time things get put on the back burner.

 

Sometimes things get pushed aside and you don’t think about them until it is too late to do anything to change it. It’s not on purpose it just happens. That’s life right?

Visiting a friend, Suffolk VAOff to meet Ms. Mary

Yesterday it wasn’t “just life” for a friend of mine. See, she has done a lot for my kids and I since we moved here a year ago. Hard to believe that she, her husband and her wonderful daughters (whom have both graced my Facebook page now) have only been a part of my family for a year. It feels like they have been a part of it forever.

Scarlett meets Ms. MaryIt's amazing the interactions that take place between a child and adult. Especially the really young and the ones that need a little more care. Robin’s oldest daughter, Liz, and I conspired shortly after Robin’s mom went to the hospital last time to get some “nice” pictures of Robin with her mom and also with the girls if we could swing it. Yesterday the cards kind of fell into place. Liz had a legitimate reason to miss school (that did not just involve hanging out with me & Scarlett); the weather was nice so we surprised both Robin and her mom with a visit. See, Ms. Mary didn’t get to come home after her last hospital stay; she is currently residing in a long-term care facility. I was warned that Ms. Mary doesn’t like cameras, “that’s okay” I said I wasn’t going for a whole “glamour shoot” type deal. I just wanted my friend to have some images of her with her mom on a nice day. And as we all know when you work with kids (especially mine since she was along for the ride) you have to expect a little resistance. Turns out – Scarlett made it pretty easy.

Just because a family member is older, doesn't mean they shouldn't be documented too. Explaining to Ms. Mary who the extra people areRobin was excited to introduce us to her mama.

There was quite a bit of conversation about shoes & socks... Ms. Mary thought it was funny that Scarlett was ordering Liz around (and to get off MeeMaw's shoes)! 

Porch sittingLuckily the weather held out, and we got to enjoy the porch When your life is uncomplicated by all the comings and going of things and things that need to be done, sometimes just sitting on a porch with your daughter makes a world of difference. Mother & DaughterLiz & Scarlett provided some entertainment, arguing like siblings (almost) and Liz attempted to teach a three year old how to snap her fingers. Ms. Mary was entertained.

Ever watch an 18 year old teach a 3 year old to snap her fingers? 

Liz & ScarlettThese two are quite a pair.

Scarlett & RobinScarlett made the whole visit with Ms. Mary quite pleasant, she even demanded to push "MeeMaw" in her wheelchair. (Ms. Mary enjoyed it.) Even our elders still like to have fun, like a childMaking a Break!We took the scenic route back to Ms. Mary's room. Scarlett once again decided to push.

A change of pace may seem insignificant. I can assure you after this visit, it is not.

Documenting interactions with older generations can be so rewarding - even if it's not within your own family. Taking MeeMaw for a rideRobin may have encouraged Scarlett to run. Despite giggling, Ms. Mary may have told Robin to not let her fall & skin her knees. Always a mom that one!

Silly isn't just for kids.Uphill, air cast and all, pushing mama To keep her mama giggling, Robin continued to jog (one would say) to keep the wind in her mama's face.   Will you come see me again? Will you come again? Ms. Mary asked Scarlett to come visit again. I think it's a sure thing that the boss in my house will want to go with Robin again.

I know you have all heard me talk about documenting your kids, but this visit reminded me how kids aren't the only ones who's lives need to be documented. 

 


 


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